When we first meet these men, they’re convinced they have specific problems like:
Being unappreciated/disrespected/overlooked
Feeling alone even though in a relationship or in a crowd
An angry, cold, distant wife or partner who doesn’t seem to like them, let alone love them
Not receiving warmth/attention/affection/touch/together time/sex/intimacy
Their wife/partner spending too much time on her phone/with friends/with the kids/etc
The truth is, many men will be angered reading this. They’re not yet ready to face the daunting task of maturing into their most capable, confident selves. That’s okay; We get it; we were there, too, once!
I still get triggered seeing her on the sofa on her phone which is where she is pretty much most of the time after saying Goodnight to the kids. More often than not, she’s watching something or doing something. She’ll spend most of the time before bed in that position before going to bed. If I happen to go engage her in convo, she’ll listen and we talk but 90% of the time, that only happens if I initiate. She has rarely come to where I am and engaged me that way.
When we first meet men, they often only approach sex in one way. Neediness.
We know it’s hard to hear, but this is the approach of immature, insecure men.
There’s a better way, and it involves a transformation and maturing process in the man’s life.
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They all think “the problem” is that she’s avoidant.
They all think “the problem” is that she has walls up.
They all think “the problem” is that she stonewalls.
They all think “the problem” is that she doesn’t like intimacy, or that some form of prior abuse or trauma is to blame for her distance.
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