Introducing

Matthew Epsky

Professional men’s coach and mentor

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Hello sir, I’m Matt! I’m here for the man who finds himself a bit lost in life and relationships and questions his own value. Together we find those answers, your unique power and purpose, and your internal well-being and confidence again.

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My Story

I am here on this website because about three years ago I thought I was going to die from heartache. My marriage was in the beginning stages of its eventually demise and I found myself lost, confused, and searching for some sort of answer as to why it was all happening. I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

I reached out for help to other men who seemed to have either lived the same experiences, felt the same way at times, or knew a whole heck of a lot more than I did. We had very similar situations from hearing our wives say, “I love you but I’m not in love you” or plain and simple “I need space. I want you gone…today.” It left me feeling defeated, depressed, and destroyed.

That pain led me to some profound revelations. I learned insights into relationships and masculinity that transformed my life. After choosing my bottom, making the decision to get better and be better, I asked for help. That help came in the form of a powerful group of open-hearted men who are striving to live authentically, create something profoundly better, and desiring to share with other men the wisdom accumulated through their own heartache.

This work didn’t come easy. It took effort to face my “nice guy” tendencies and examine my less than desirable behaviors. I was afraid of losing my wife, afraid of losing my family, and afraid of losing the life I built. I fortunately faced these fears with an attitude of 100% responsibility for my actions and it opened my heart and my mind to hear, for the very first time, what needed to change.

Through this trying personal growth challenge I was able to realize exactly who I am, what I want, and where I am going. I feel more confident, clearer and more concise, and I love deeper than I have before. I feel less anxious and am comfortable emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The tools I learned have helped my relationships with my children, my friends, and many others.

I want those same things for you. I want you to find your swagger again. I want you to strip away the beliefs that are holding you back from getting what you want out of life. You are more powerful than you think right now. I can help with that if you are willing.

My Values & Beliefs

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Value #1 - Love

“You can only love another to the level you love yourself” Yep, I missed this one for about forty years. Chances are you might agree with this quote but have no clue how take action on it. I want to show you how.

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Value #2 - Honest

This one is a hard one to look at, at least for me it was. To face our deepest fears, we need to look no farther than the mirror in front of us. If we are honest with ourselves, truly honest, we might find some things that are hard to admit. The journey begins with honesty, or else you end up walking in circles and starting again from the same spot you are currently in.

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Value #3 - Acceptance

If I can be honest (which is a requirement of mine, see above) I lived my life in this safe little box called judgement, condemning people all around me in order to feel safe and in control. It kept me living small. When I was shown acceptance, I understood how powerful that truly was. It allowed me to be seen and to finally see others. If you want to feel understood and heard, you need to feel what complete acceptance is like.

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Value #4 - Hard Work & Continuous Growth

This life can feel like an uphill climb sometimes. My attitude towards doing the work no matter how hard grinding it out can be at times has led me to this place. I can tell you it feels higher up the mountain and the views are spectacular. I also realize this mountain might not have a final summit, so I will continue to feed my mind and soul for the rest of my life.

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Belief #1 – Connection & Energy

I believe in something greater than myself. I believe that we are all connected. I believe that you are an important part of the whole equation.

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Belief #2 – Love

There’s that word again…I believe that is the true foundation of our being. You were brought into this world purely whole, fully loving, and perfectly made. A series of circumstances and falsehoods have you thinking otherwise. Let’s strip those false beliefs away, together, if you want a guide.

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Belief #3 – Joy & Abundance

I believe this world is brimming with both, at all times, for you and me. Only when our own shadows hide that truth from us is when we do not see that. I believe the light only we can shine on those shadows is inside us and then our eyes can finally see the truth.

My Approach

I want you to imagine for a minute a place where you can go to feel heard, supported, understood, and to feel like you are completely accepted for who you are right now. I want you to think of a place where brotherhood is not merely a word, but an action. A place where you will be encouraged, coached and, I can guarantee you’ll be challenged. A place where everyone knows your name (cue Cheers theme song here 😉)

We built this community with you in mind and with a purpose to create such a place. Somewhere, where men like you, are reaching out to each other to become better versions of themselves. We are having daily conversations about topics such as love & relationships, money, careers, mission & purpose, emotional intelligence, spiritual awareness…the list goes on and on. We need you here. We need you to raise the bar for yourself AND for us. We do this growth work together.

If you want to begin, or even continue your journey, send me a message, and let me know you’re ready. I work with men through one-on-one coaching, group settings, and men’s retreats. We dive deep into how you’re thinking and what personal beliefs have gotten you to this point in your life. We uncover some deep fears that are holding you back from finding the love, peace, and freedom you desire. We start to feel alive again. It all begins with one, free, no obligation phone call. What’s holding you back?

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